What is Secondary Bullying?
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What is Secondary Bullying?

Bullying is a complex dynamic. There is the person engaging in the primary bullying- and sometimes there are others, though not the instigators, that go along with the actions of the bully either actively or passively. Ignoring, unfriending, or listening to toxic gossip and accusations are implicitly giving the bully the green light to keep on victimizing the victim.

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